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Bicurious? Question 

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Bicurious?

So whom amongst you, male and female will admit to being bicurious?
24 Sep 2013 13:40
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RE: Bicurious?

I am.
The only things stopping me being fully bi is the fact I haven't had it off with another girlie lol.
I've always had crushes and sexual desire for girls, since I was about 13.
Just never had the chance to have a go, as I wouldn't want to mess about whilst in a relationship Smile

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24 Sep 2013 13:58
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RE: Bicurious?

To me there is no such thing as bi-curious.  Just as there is no such thing as heterosexual-curious.

Bisexual is a sexual orientation just like heterosexual and homosexual.

Now, if you always considered yourself a specific sexual orientation and are considering you may be another, in my opinion, you may already be and not ever have acknowledged it.

Many consider you can only be bi if you are willing to have a serious relationship with either sex.  To me that is bullshit!

It is a friggin' sexual orientation!  It is what attracts you!  So, you mean to tell me that heterosexuals that do not prefer to be in a relationship, EVER, like your confirmed bachelors and bachelors, are not really heterosexual because they do not care to have a serious relationship?!?  Ridiculous.

Ok, a bit off track, well, way off track.  This "bi-curious" thing has always annoyed me. 

Bisexuals have always not been taken seriously.  From the gay community and the heterosexual community.  We are seen as confused and untrustworthy. 

With the "bi-curious" thing, it legitimizes that being bisexual is a myth and phase.  I heard people say "WHEN I was bi" as if it is something they tried on, like a role.  Or when a bi person has a homosexual relationship and they call themselves lesbian or gay.  Newsflash, you are still BI.  You may be in a lesbian or gay relationship, but you are BI!

You can call yourself bi-curious if you are curious and are trying to figure yourself out.  As I mentioned, I have just heard through life, too many people that call themselves that as if they are trying a role or a new pair of pants that they can just remove.

(24 Sep 2013 13:58)PinkLipstick92 Wrote:  I am.
The only things stopping me being fully bi is the fact I haven't had it off with another girlie lol.
I've always had crushes and sexual desire for girls, since I was about 13.
Just never had the chance to have a go, as I wouldn't want to mess about whilst in a relationship Smile

I was on a talk show once way back when I had one experience with another woman.

The host asked me how do I know I am bi if I was only with one woman.

I fumed and said, "You know, when a person identifies themselves as heterosexual and they are virgins, does anyone question their sexual orientation?!"

If you have had these feelings at the start of puberty, hmmmm, honey, no one can tell you who you are, but damn, that is pretty clear to me.
(This post was last modified: 24 Sep 2013 14:46 by This Is Me.)
24 Sep 2013 14:41
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RE: Bicurious?

I should mention that although I do not care for for the term because it gets thrown around defining anything and everything; I do believe the term, for lack of any other, should be used to describe someone who is in the midst of finding out where their sexual orientation lies.
24 Sep 2013 16:14
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RE: Bicurious?

This is turning into a fascinating debate, but is more about language than sexuality.

ThisIsMe makes some valid and interesting points, but her assertion that there is no such thing as 'bi-curious' is over-simplifying it.

My feeling is that we are all potentially bisexual in that, given the right set of circumstances, we'd all be willing to try a sexual act with somebody of our own sex. This even applies to men who say they are 100 per cent straight and mean it. They might change their tune, for instance, if a virus wiped out all women and they gave in to the basic human need for physical contact. Then there are those at the other extreme who prefer sex with men, instead of women, but would still do it with a woman.

But there are obviously all shades of bisexuality in-between.

We need terms like 'bi-curious' to somehow categorize the complexities of our emotions, which are far more complex than the language we have to describe them.

To me, 'bi-curious' is a label people give themselves to mean that, given freedom from other issues (such as a long-term relationship) they wouldn't think twice or be ashamed about entering into a sexual relationship with somebody of their own sex. You can't go through that mouthful every time, so 'bi-curious' is the only way to put it into words effectively.

And just to show how inadequate language is: what do we mean by 'sexual'? Almost anything physical, in a particular situation, could be called 'sexual', but we all have our own ideas of what 'sexual' means. If we can't agree on what 'sexual' means, how can we accurately define different types of sexuality, such as 'bi-curious'?

I must say it is unfair to suggest that the term 'bi-curious' or the people who use it are responsible for discrimination. The blame for that is with the bigots who practise intolerance. The 'bi-curious' - and, indeed the many enlightened straight people - are friends of the gay and bisexual communities, not their enemies.
24 Sep 2013 16:34
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RE: Bicurious?

I think you're right about language. To me, my interpretation has always been that a bi-curious man or woman may have a fascination with the same sex's genitalia and/or body, but no desire for the actual person beyond sex, whereas a bisexual person may enter into a relationship beyond the pure physical.

I recently accepted that I have a little bi-curiosity myself. I think it's difficult as a naturist not to have a little curiosity when you spend a fair amount of time around naked people of the same sex. Probably a large percentage of blokes have a degree of this, the majority will never go beyond fantasising. If you watch a lot of porn, you spend a fair amount of time looking at cocks - if most men were only turned on purely by female bodies, 99% of porn would be lesbian.

Jeez, did you see that head come apart?
24 Sep 2013 17:03
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(24 Sep 2013 16:34) thetourist Wrote:  This is turning into a fascinating debate, but is more about language than sexuality.

ThisIsMe makes some valid and interesting points, but her assertion that there is no such thing as 'bi-curious' is over-simplifying it.

I never mentioned that there is no such thing as bi-curious.

To me, 'bi-curious' is a label people give themselves to mean that, given freedom from other issues (such as a long-term relationship) they wouldn't think twice or be ashamed about entering into a sexual relationship with somebody of their own sex. You can't go through that mouthful every time, so 'bi-curious' is the only way to put it into words effectively.

With this description, you are bisexual and not curious or figuring out your sexuality.
24 Sep 2013 17:24
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RE: Bicurious?

But what about, for example, some prisoners (so I understand) who will have sex with another inmate, but would't even consider it on the outside? Would you class them as bi-sexual merely for having done it, even though it's not a lifestyle?

Jeez, did you see that head come apart?
24 Sep 2013 17:46
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RE: Bicurious?

I always took Bi-curious as people who are curious to play sexually but not on a relationship type status. I've spoke to 'bi-curious' men who want to try playing with another cock but are not attracted to men in anyway, just want to feel and wank a cock!
24 Sep 2013 17:58
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RE: Bicurious?

I think everyone's understanding of the word bisexual is different. I've never had a sexual relationship with a woman, but as far as i'm concerned I'm bisexual because I find women sexually attractive. However, I suppose a lot of people wouldn't want to 'label' themselves without knowing for sure if they actually enjoyed sex with someone of the same sex.

(24 Sep 2013 17:58)pudthumper Wrote:  I always took Bi-curious as people who are curious to play sexually but not on a relationship type status. I've spoke to 'bi-curious' men who want to try playing with another cock but are not attracted to men in anyway, just want to feel and wank a cock!

but then there is the term 'hetero-flexible' which I only heard recently...

oh dear it's so confusing!!!
(This post was last modified: 24 Sep 2013 18:02 by bumblebee.)
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