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Constant Bombardment

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Constant Bombardment

Does anybody else ever get tired of hearing your own name? As every time I hear mine I don't hear someone asking form me. I hear I need your help or can you do something for me. I cannot recall the last time someone called me over for good news. Do you ever feel you give everything and what you get back just doesn't stack up. It's also when you do things for people and there is no appreciation just an air of you fixed my problem now I can get on with my day. People tell me that it's good to be helpful and I should feel honoured that anyone can turn to me and put their weight on my shoulders and I will carry them. What they don't get is just how tiring carrying so much weight is. I find myself wandering how much can I take and I then think is it just me being moany and been a bit of a selfish twat?
Should life be about other people dumping all emotional baggage on you. When I try to talk back I feel like any of my problems are so insignificant they don't matter.
Should we go through life accepting this or should we bite back and say yes very sad but get on with your life? 
I guess nobody really has the answers to this but I feel better for getting off my chest 
Thank you 
11 Nov 2018 23:27
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RE: Constant Bombardment

I hear you BCB

At work I am the one everyone turns to when they have run out of other options. I can usually solve the problem or at least suggest a way forward but most colleagues and customers don't think to thank me for taking time out of my work to assist 

Fortunately my boss does tell me how valued I am and there a couple of people who will say thanks 

But I do know where you are coming from. I look on it as an honour that they trust me with being able to help and never refuse

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13 Nov 2018 19:12
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RE: Constant Bombardment

Some time ago I felt the same, but with one difference. I knew a fellow who was really handy, If I needed an oojimaflip, he'd have one, if I needed a hand, he was available. Everybody else seemed to gravitate to me for assistance, just as you describe BCB, and I was finding it pretty wearing.


I was having a moan to myself then wondered if this fellow I knew who always helped me, ever felt the same.
I went round to see him. His first question was "Hi Maurice, What can I do for you?" He was smiling (he was usually smiling) and his smile fair beamed at me when I replied, "Hi Paul, Nothing mate, I just popped round to see you."


If you are lucky BCB you will know someone else who is one of life's 'givers'. If you do, just go visit him for no other reason but to be friendly.


First it will cheer him up and secondly you will feel happier in yourself. Keep being a giver and do your best to enjoy it.


PS, Sadly my friend is straight (or at least I think he is!!! )
(This post was last modified: 14 Nov 2018 09:06 by Maurice.)
14 Nov 2018 09:04
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Music RE: Constant Bombardment

Mrs Yuri and I live in a quiet cul-de-sac, and a few of our neighbors are elderly, and since
we are now both retired we seem to be the go to couple when people need help etc.
on the whole we don't find this a problem at all, but there has been occasions when I've
started a job for myself and got sidetracked by someone, which can be frustrating.

But I suppose I'm glad that people feel they can ask us for help - its kinda nice to 
be wanted !

There are no strangers on this forum - just sexy friends you have yet to chat with !
14 Nov 2018 09:53
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It is always nice to be wanted. And flattering to be asked

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14 Nov 2018 19:27
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Its nice to be wanted but.... i say but because sometimes them asking for small odd favors puts you in there `she will do' category, which you do not wants as this makes it hard to say no to people.
in my case im the one the either gets messages or call last minute can you do this for me or fancy coming out!! Only get invited out if they want a pick me up as im the fun one Smile
there have been times when iv arranged to go out with friends and everyone has dropped out last min! this does happen a lot which is now i am older i dont bother Sad which intern has change me...

So yep i hear ya berk xx
15 Nov 2018 08:24
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The one where you arrange something and everybody drops out is so annoying. You can't help but feel used if they all still expect little favours from you

If you don't try it how do you know you don't like it?
15 Nov 2018 20:16
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(11 Nov 2018 23:27)Berkscountryboy Wrote:  Does anybody else ever get tired of hearing your own name? As every time I hear mine I don't hear someone asking form me. I hear I need your help or can you do something for me. I cannot recall the last time someone called me over for good news. Do you ever feel you give everything and what you get back just doesn't stack up. It's also when you do things for people and there is no appreciation just an air of you fixed my problem now I can get on with my day. People tell me that it's good to be helpful and I should feel honoured that anyone can turn to me and put their weight on my shoulders and I will carry them. What they don't get is just how tiring carrying so much weight is. I find myself wandering how much can I take and I then think is it just me being moany and been a bit of a selfish twat?
Should life be about other people dumping all emotional baggage on you. When I try to talk back I feel like any of my problems are so insignificant they don't matter.
Should we go through life accepting this or should we bite back and say yes very sad but get on with your life? 
I guess nobody really has the answers to this but I feel better for getting off my chest 
Thank you 
I'm afraid we all come across people bearing burdens from time to time which they wish to share with us.  It's easy to feel resentful if they've not been particularly grateful for the help we've given and that's entirely understandable.  For what it's worth I think the best thing to do is try to be as kind, patient and helpful as we can be.  Sometimes it helps people to share burdens with those who are outside their situation and can bring a fresh perspective or see what's happening with greater clarity.  

Best regards

Adrian 
(This post was last modified: 17 Nov 2018 22:25 by Adrian697062017wc.)
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The lack of thanks reflects badly on them; giving help reflects well on you. One can only hope they learn to be more like you

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18 Nov 2018 19:45
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