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The urge to cheat...

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RE: The urge to cheat...

(07 Aug 2017 09:32)YoungBigD Wrote:  
(07 Aug 2017 08:31)Red_Velvet Wrote:  
(06 Aug 2017 22:37)YoungBigD Wrote:  
(24 Jul 2017 15:41)Red_Velvet Wrote:  It's me again,

Right...so the title says it all. Yes I feel the urge to cheat and I have never cheated on my hubby before in the 8.5 years we've been together. I have some fantasies that i'm aching to fulfil that I know he just wont be down for and the only way to get it is to cheat or break up with him. Masturbating and imagining just isn't doing it for me anymore. But if I do it and get caught, I'm in BIG trouble.

Have you cheated on a partner who doesn't know your true sexual desires? Are you in the same boat as me?
Tbh I feel like if you have fantasies that you're 'aching to fulfil' it would be a shame not to fulfil them, a lot of the time it's the things you don't do that you regret most. If he can't satisfy your needs then I don't see the problem with you getting it elsewhere. It would be selfish of him not to let you feel good.

I personally havent cheated but that's because I'm young and not married, so if I am not sexually fulfilled in a relationship I can end it more easily. I wont get married until I find a perfect match (sexually) who is into the same things as me.
I wish I found a companion that was into the same stuff. When I met my hubby, I fancied the socks off him and we got together after about a year. I didn't plan on settling down with him, i just wanted some fun but he just wouldn't leave me alone when I wanted to end it. I wish I told him about my desires before, we would either be doing it or we wouldn't have together probably.

You wanted to end it and he wouldn't leave you alone? That's no good... doesn't sound like a healthy relationship tbh. I really wouldn't feel bad about cheating on someone who stopped me from breaking up with them when I wanted to lol. Just my personal opinion... I think marriage/monogamy is stupid unless the two people are really well suited.
I agree. At first it was terrible but I grew to love him and basically got used to my new monogamous lifestyle. If I cheated and he knew, my goodness hell would open up, regardless of the fact that I wanted to leave.

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07 Aug 2017 12:53
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RE: The urge to cheat...

That is very difficult. Guys are programmed by nature to be polygamous, women are rather monogamous. I love my wife very much but my kinkiness and my sexual needs are boundless. I had many temptations and occasions to cheat and I didn't. Sometimes at great cost of my strong will. The one and only solution I have found, which I'm working towards for, is swingers activities where u can engage in different sexual practices with your partner and others with mutual consent.

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I'm actively looking for an affair. It's about novelty and excitement more than just sex

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Christian - In that case I guess I have a sex drive like a man lol. I have always wondered what being a man would be like. I don't think I'd ever b in a proper relationship.

dom_husband - That's exactly why I feel the urge for novelty and excitement purposes. I didn't know how to put it in simple words lol, thank you.

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i have the urge to cheat... but don't think I could really. i've had plenty of opportunities, but always walked away. Well... i did cheat on my first wife ( we hated each other anyway) with the person who I'm married to now.
i think talking to some ladies on here probably makes the urge even more accute... nice though!

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(21 Aug 2017 12:17)whitley_stu Wrote:  i have the urge to cheat... but don't think I could really. i've had plenty of opportunities, but always walked away. Well... i did cheat on my first wife ( we hated each other anyway) with the person who I'm married to now.
i think talking to some ladies on here probably makes the urge even more accute... nice though!

Don't, there's no excuse for the betrayal.
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(21 Aug 2017 12:45)Voshigirl Wrote:  
(21 Aug 2017 12:17)whitley_stu Wrote:  i have the urge to cheat... but don't think I could really. i've had plenty of opportunities, but always walked away. Well... i did cheat on my first wife ( we hated each other anyway) with the person who I'm married to now.
i think talking to some ladies on here probably makes the urge even more accute... nice though!

Don't, there's no excuse for the betrayal.
Agreed!

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Stu, you're a nice guy. Years ago when I was off sex for a long time, I could tell hubby was getting a bit frustrated with me. He never said new was frustrated though, I told him he could seek a fuck buddy, as long as he told me first. As far as I know he never did.

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(21 Aug 2017 12:11)Red_Velvet Wrote:  Christian - In that case I guess I have a sex drive like a man lol. I have always wondered what being a man would be like. I don't think I'd ever b in a proper relationship.

dom_husband - That's exactly why I feel the urge for novelty and excitement purposes. I didn't know how to put it in simple words lol, thank you.
Velvet in that case try to achieve open relationship. If its not possible with your current partner and your needs are greater, then its better to leave him then cheat. Why hurt someone? Be open and try to discuss this with him. If that wont work you will know you are not for each other. Be true with yourself or it will eat u up from inside.

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I have been with my wife for nearly 20 years and i am getting the urge to cheat more and more.
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