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The urge to cheat...

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(04 Aug 2017 18:54)Voshigirl Wrote:  That would depend on what your looking for. Lol

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I have had the urge to, especially with a girl I used to work with, but have never done it and hope that I never will.

Problem is that you don't know what will happen in the future.
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I completely sympathise. I'm in a similar position. I have been naughty, similarly to you the stakes are massive so I was super careful.
There's a saying that goes 'what the eyes don't see the heart can't grieve'. This is quite true, but it depends on your conscience really. Everyone has a different outlook on things. What I would say is to be mindful of how you'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot. Guilt is a horrible thing.
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(05 Aug 2017 01:01)Marillion42 Wrote:  I completely sympathise. I'm in a similar position. I have been naughty, similarly to you the stakes are massive so I was super careful.
There's a saying that goes 'what the eyes don't see the heart can't grieve'. This is quite true, but it depends on your conscience really. Everyone has a different outlook on things. What I would say is to be mindful of how you'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot. Guilt is a horrible thing.

I think the guilt would kill me but at the same time the thrill of keeping the secret would turn me on. It's so weird

(04 Aug 2017 22:49)Iamsomoney Wrote:  I have had the urge to, especially with a girl I used to work with, but have never done it and hope that I never will.

Problem is that you don't know what will happen in the future.

It's true, thankfully there's no one at work who catches my eye. That would be so hard. 
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If you really love her, you wouldn't cheat. No matter how many urges you have. It's just not the right thing to do. In my opinion, if you do cheat, you don't deserve him.
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(05 Aug 2017 11:16)Bicuriousguy Wrote:  If you really love her, you wouldn't cheat. No matter how many urges you have. It's just not the right thing to do. In my opinion, if you do cheat, you don't deserve him.
I agree with that, I do love him and believe he hasn't cheated on me which is why guilt would kill. I just wish I could fight the feeling.


In all honesty, I don't think I would cheat on him, but if I ever found out he has, I would just leave him and live a single life and fulfil my fantasies. The reason for me leaving would be because I was able to fight the burning urge so why couldn't he.

(05 Aug 2017 07:19)Morwen Wrote:  I've never "really" cheated although with some past partners I have been openly poly. I think its about not wanting to even possibly cause hurt to those I love. The closest I came was an online fling about 10 years ago when not in an open relationship at the time. The relationship I was in had been mostly sexless for about 3 years (of 6) and the guy i was with was an asshole (example - when i mentioned our dwindling sexlife, he said i was too fat to be sexy... nice guy...) anyway, met a guy online and he was VERY much into me! Smile Didn't mind the extra pounds and was always complimenting me and making me feel a million dollars. We spent hours on the phone whilst my ex was at work (I worked shifts so was not working during the daytimes ) and exchanged pics etc...  If he had traveled down (He was up near Scotland, I'm down in the south) then yeah, I might have physically cheated too... in the end, I asked him not to - even though ex was a twat, I couldn't morally continue.

(Funnily enough, the ex found out anyway what had been going on and that gave me the strength to end things with him... so maybe that guy served his purpose after all)
That's the closest I've gotten to another guy too. What did he expect treating you like that

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(24 Jul 2017 15:41)Red_Velvet Wrote:  It's me again,

Right...so the title says it all. Yes I feel the urge to cheat and I have never cheated on my hubby before in the 8.5 years we've been together. I have some fantasies that i'm aching to fulfil that I know he just wont be down for and the only way to get it is to cheat or break up with him. Masturbating and imagining just isn't doing it for me anymore. But if I do it and get caught, I'm in BIG trouble.

Have you cheated on a partner who doesn't know your true sexual desires? Are you in the same boat as me?
Tbh I feel like if you have fantasies that you're 'aching to fulfil' it would be a shame not to fulfil them, a lot of the time it's the things you don't do that you regret most. If he can't satisfy your needs then I don't see the problem with you getting it elsewhere. It would be selfish of him not to let you feel good.

I personally havent cheated but that's because I'm young and not married, so if I am not sexually fulfilled in a relationship I can end it more easily. I wont get married until I find a perfect match (sexually) who is into the same things as me.
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Being married isn't the promise not to cheat, the betrayal will feel just the same in any relationship. It is also selfish to seek it out without the knowledge of your partner.

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(06 Aug 2017 22:37)YoungBigD Wrote:  
(24 Jul 2017 15:41)Red_Velvet Wrote:  It's me again,

Right...so the title says it all. Yes I feel the urge to cheat and I have never cheated on my hubby before in the 8.5 years we've been together. I have some fantasies that i'm aching to fulfil that I know he just wont be down for and the only way to get it is to cheat or break up with him. Masturbating and imagining just isn't doing it for me anymore. But if I do it and get caught, I'm in BIG trouble.

Have you cheated on a partner who doesn't know your true sexual desires? Are you in the same boat as me?
Tbh I feel like if you have fantasies that you're 'aching to fulfil' it would be a shame not to fulfil them, a lot of the time it's the things you don't do that you regret most. If he can't satisfy your needs then I don't see the problem with you getting it elsewhere. It would be selfish of him not to let you feel good.

I personally havent cheated but that's because I'm young and not married, so if I am not sexually fulfilled in a relationship I can end it more easily. I wont get married until I find a perfect match (sexually) who is into the same things as me.
I wish I found a companion that was into the same stuff. When I met my hubby, I fancied the socks off him and we got together after about a year. I didn't plan on settling down with him, i just wanted some fun but he just wouldn't leave me alone when I wanted to end it. I wish I told him about my desires before, we would either be doing it or we wouldn't have together probably.
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(07 Aug 2017 08:31)Red_Velvet Wrote:  
(06 Aug 2017 22:37)YoungBigD Wrote:  
(24 Jul 2017 15:41)Red_Velvet Wrote:  It's me again,

Right...so the title says it all. Yes I feel the urge to cheat and I have never cheated on my hubby before in the 8.5 years we've been together. I have some fantasies that i'm aching to fulfil that I know he just wont be down for and the only way to get it is to cheat or break up with him. Masturbating and imagining just isn't doing it for me anymore. But if I do it and get caught, I'm in BIG trouble.

Have you cheated on a partner who doesn't know your true sexual desires? Are you in the same boat as me?
Tbh I feel like if you have fantasies that you're 'aching to fulfil' it would be a shame not to fulfil them, a lot of the time it's the things you don't do that you regret most. If he can't satisfy your needs then I don't see the problem with you getting it elsewhere. It would be selfish of him not to let you feel good.

I personally havent cheated but that's because I'm young and not married, so if I am not sexually fulfilled in a relationship I can end it more easily. I wont get married until I find a perfect match (sexually) who is into the same things as me.
I wish I found a companion that was into the same stuff. When I met my hubby, I fancied the socks off him and we got together after about a year. I didn't plan on settling down with him, i just wanted some fun but he just wouldn't leave me alone when I wanted to end it. I wish I told him about my desires before, we would either be doing it or we wouldn't have together probably.

You wanted to end it and he wouldn't leave you alone? That's no good... doesn't sound like a healthy relationship tbh. I really wouldn't feel bad about cheating on someone who stopped me from breaking up with them when I wanted to lol. Just my personal opinion... I think marriage/monogamy is stupid unless the two people are really well suited.
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