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New to the sub world

kingDoms_sub Online
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Post: #11
RE: New to the sub world

Educate yourself on BDSM and D/s relationships - be that Master/slave, Big/little or whatever worksvfor you - it sounds as though you may not entirely know what being a slave means in the world of BDSM - it's more about giving someone else complete control over every aspect of your life, not just being good and getting rewarded. There are other types of D/s that may be mmore like what you're wanting though. An experienced Dom or Master should be able to teach and help you find what works for you.

So I would definitely urge you to look up some information - there are great resources out there. Kinkier World podcast is excellent, Evie Lupines Youtube channel and Loving BDSM podcast too are all really helpful for learning about the lifestyle. anything by Kayla Lords too - she writes prolifically online about D/s.

You need to talk about what you *both* want out of this and agree boundaries and consider writing a contract or agreement about what you are happy with (and equally what you aren't).
26 Oct 2017 20:35
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RE: New to the sub world

Thank you for the replies.
Just to answer, I don't think being a slave is just being rewarded when I am good. I understand it's giving someone control to essentially own me. But that's my confusion, I understand I am in a master/slave relationship cause how they have told me this is going to be,it's also intimate. But I haven't felt that control over my life...just in the bedroom and still then it very much centres around pleasing my dom and in return I equally get pleased, but it's all on his terms when he wants these intimate encounters. I am just concerned my feelings are going to go beyond what he would like.
27 Oct 2017 18:14
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RE: New to the sub world

(27 Oct 2017 18:14)Hevsmev Wrote:  Thank you for the replies.
Just to answer, I don't think being a slave is just being rewarded when I am good. I understand it's giving someone control to essentially own me. But that's my confusion,  I understand I am in a master/slave relationship cause how they have told me this is going to be,it's also intimate. But I haven't felt that control over my life...just in the bedroom and still then it very much centres around pleasing my dom and in return I equally get pleased, but it's all on his terms when he wants these intimate encounters. I am just concerned my feelings are going to go beyond what he would like.
Sounds like something you need to discuss, but essentially self discipline is called for unless your want your OH  to be responsible for your feelings too. IMO, Oh by the way, welcome to the forum and have fun.
27 Oct 2017 18:51
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RE: New to the sub world

I'm very new to BDSM so I feel like I'm in your boat, and I must say while it's a ton of fun to dominate, I prefer to be a sub.

My favourite part of being the sub is that someone can make me do things I'm entirely not expecting, or something I wouldn't have thought to bring up in the situation. So long as you make it clear to your Dom what your boundaries are beforehand, and use safewords if you feel uncomfortable, you can really get taken on an adventure into someone's sexual mind by being a sub.

I have a fetish involving any award, merit, or school certificates and always short of supply. If you have any sitting in an old folder somewhere, or any you don't mind parting with, I'd really appreciate it. Thank you! Heart
27 Oct 2017 20:03
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RE: New to the sub world

Had to bump this thread. One of my personal favourites and full of good advice

If you don't try it how do you know you don't like it?
22 Jul 2018 06:59
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