Getting off on being watched

Training Betty was hot

I completely agree, Missysuga. I've always loved being watched, and I get incredibly turned on by hearing about others who enjoy it too. Hence my joining in with this thread. My ex-wife got me into it. She was (probably still is) such an exhibitionist. The most memorable time was a long afternoon at a hotel in Argentina, sitting across the pool from her but speaking on the mobile, as we talked about the effect her ridiculously skimpy bikini was having on the men around the pool. No nudity, no flashing, but the heat and increasing obviousness to everyone of what was happening was incredible. 

But here's a question for you, for Welshstonedsex, and any other woman reading - or men for that matter. I suspect that the love of being watched is possibly shared equally between men and women. But watching? Is voyeurism a mainly man thing? or is this equally shared, do you think?

Thing is, as a very bi-curious man, I love being watched by men, watching them getting turned on - whether on a gay/mixed beach, or on chaturbate (where I have an exhibitionist cam room and can also talk to them about their fantasies) - but I very rarely come across women who want to watch. Now... this might be the nature of the site, or that I have a body built for males (ex-rugby) rather than females (weird thought)... I'm the first to recognise it's not the most exhaustive research approach.. but still ... I wonder???  

gud to know its not just me thats lt

It's like my biggest turn on........I love being watched whether the person who's watching knows I can see them or not, there's been a few instances I've umm......put on a show coz of it
I also do like watching.......fucking hell I have eyes and when I see something that's turning me on, ur damn right I'm gonna look lol.......but there's something bout catching/watching a man wank that just drives me crazy! I'm sure it's the moaning! Gets me wetter than an otters pocket lol

Confession......I sneaked into rugby training room when I was bit younger...bout 18....hid in locker and watched the boys shower and get changed...I sneaked back out when they left and smiled all the way home. Still one of my fave memories from my teens wonder if I do it again I'll get caught?

So no....it's not just a man thing

Nice to see a good discussion for a change and of course I can only add from my own experiences. It was only men that caught us when we were courting and in our early marriage and I was so excited that I manipulated situations as often as I could and in later years when photography became part of our fun yes the wives were watching the action. If you have time to spare you can read all about it on Erotic True Stories, six chapters up to now under the title of Educating Betty but sorry all the photos I posted to illustrate them have now been removed.

(05 Feb 2016 19:09)Missysuga Wrote:  I have tried to approach this subject with my hubby. But as h's such a gently person I think I came across as a crazy freak!!! Any tips on how to broach the subject with a gentle loving... not dirty person?!!!

I realised I didn't really speak to your question, Missysuga.

I think that one possible way forward is in Welshstonedsex's post where she says "It was that moment I realised he likes it when he knows he's going home with me x"

Before the swimming pool thing, my ex-wife had taken the following approach:
1. We talked about what excited us when we were single.
2. We talked about what excited us when we were together.
3. We talked about how you can't just turn off your 'buttons' once you are with someone, but that the difference is that now it's much better because you can actually share it with someone else. We all have fantasies - it's inescapable -  keeping them private is usual, but for her the ideal is finding someone she can share everything with.  The KEY for her however, is that we can share the fantasy with the one person we trust above all others. Fantasy shared = fantasy amplified. And fantasy kept private between the two of you makes it special and unique.

Well, Missy, it worked for me. But then, I was a young impressionable 24 year old in the hands of a wily woman 9 years his senior. There is the possibility that being the galumphing labrador of sex hormones that I was then, all she really needed to say was "Morning...wanna watch me almost naked in public giving guys in trunks erections?" and I'd have said, "Fuck, yes." Possibly.

(06 Feb 2016 13:52)Old Sage Wrote:  The first time it happens will never be forgotten even though, as in our case, it may definitely be bettered. If you have time the whole story is told on Erotic True Stories page, titled Educating Betty.

Well, Old Sage...

What a splendid read! There's something about that era - with the fashions, the hairstyles, the clicks of the shutters, the whirr of the cameras, the total non-digitalness of it all, that makes your stories so sexy and charged!

I love it that it's the story of a couple, too. And that you ended up educating each other. Beautifully written!

Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

What a wonderful thread this has been to read with some in-depth sexy discussion.
I got rather aroused going through each and every post so I'd better head off to find 'Educating Betty!

(27 Apr 2019 07:00)Running Man Wrote:  What a wonderful thread this has been to read with some in-depth sexy discussion.
I got rather aroused going through each and every post so I'd better head off to find 'Educating Betty!

Running Man - love that you take the time to unearth all these hidden 'treasures'  for us all to enjoy.
Just goes to shows the rich seams of erotica that are tucked away on the forum - I too will be heading 
off to read ' Educating Betty'

Well done to you Sir !

Might as well dig now. Unless Topper turns up all this will be lost, which is a real shame but can't be helped