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Frustrated Sub Question 

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RE: Frustrated Sub

My boyfriend is vanilla, completely utterly 100% vanilla. He knows I'm really not though lol

We've slowly just been working up to very low key D/s in the bedroom, such as him pinning my wrists, pulling my hair, me calling him Sir etc.

Just go super slow but be obvious about what you want, but don't make him feel like if he doesn't want to then its a huge deal. If he isn't naturally dominant then he may feel silly or insecure about what he's doing and worried about getting it "wrong"

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11 May 2015 21:26
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RE: Frustrated Sub

After persuading Mrs Horse to take her equal turn at being dominant, I can echo the advice of slowly slowly. As has been said, keep it light but let your wants be known. Sex should predominantly be about fun, even the more dominant stuff, so keep it all tongue in cheek and playful.
Encouragement is the key, and vocalising what you want and how much it is turning you on should be a good start.
11 May 2015 22:14
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RE: Frustrated Sub

Good answer! Gently does it, I want him to want this too! Is that too much to ask? Or will I get to that point? Even if it goes against hiss nature? How are you naturally Mr Horse?
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11 May 2015 23:04
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Ok! Last night I though I would do the Dom thing, you l know to show him my idea of what I would like, so we could switch! Well...he made an unbelievable Sub!!!! Loved every Minuit of it pleases to say!! Let's see how things go when the roles are reversed? Yikes!! Exited
But still a little frustrated haha
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11 May 2015 23:29
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(11 May 2015 23:04)Flew Wrote:  Good answer! Gently does it, I want him to want this too! Is that too much to ask? Or will I get to that point? Even if it goes against hiss nature? How are you naturally Mr Horse?
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I am naturally very easy going and happy to fulfil most roles in a sexual situation. Mrs H is definitely a natural sub though, and over the years this has brought out a more dominant side of me that I previously did not know was there. 
Little signals were always there and I acted upon them slowly developing things into the dynamic they mostly are today. 
She would adopt submissive positions, let herself be moved around, push her own face down into the pillow, move her arms into positions where it was obvious she wanted her wrists grabbing, and of course "fuck me harder, no harder, HARDER!"  is quite an obvious sign  Wink

If it evolves naturally then it's going to be more comfortable for both of you.
12 May 2015 07:23
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This is what I need to do rather the thrust him into a scene he wouldn't be comfortable with, which neither of us would enjoy! Again greatly helpful comments Mr Horse thank you!
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12 May 2015 22:42
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