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The urge to cheat...

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Exclamation The urge to cheat...

It's me again,

Right...so the title says it all. Yes I feel the urge to cheat and I have never cheated on my hubby before in the 8.5 years we've been together. I have some fantasies that i'm aching to fulfil that I know he just wont be down for and the only way to get it is to cheat or break up with him. Masturbating and imagining just isn't doing it for me anymore. But if I do it and get caught, I'm in BIG trouble.

Have you cheated on a partner who doesn't know your true sexual desires? Are you in the same boat as me?

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RE: The urge to cheat...

No, it seems your up shit creek without a paddle.

Think very carefully about cheating, it will destroy all the trust. Be honest with him, tell him all your needs, you maybe surprised about his response.

I have never cheated, I've never needed to, he gives me all I want, no matter how naughty it is. In return I give him the same.

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24 Jul 2017 18:27
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RE: The urge to cheat...

(24 Jul 2017 18:27)Voshigirl Wrote:  No,  it seems your up shit creek without a paddle.

Think very carefully about cheating, it will destroy all the trust.   Be honest with him,  tell him all your needs, you maybe surprised about his response.

I have never cheated,  I've never needed to, he gives me all I want, no matter how naughty it is.  In return I give him the same.

I don't think I would go out of my way to cheat. I've never given out mine or taken anyone's number since being with him. It would literally have to be a case of where I go out and things just happen, It wouldn't be planned, but I wouldn't want that to happen either. 

He is very unpredictable and I don't know how he would take it. He is great at anything he does but I really want a 3some again at least and doubt it'll happen. I miss my younger days coz I was wild and free.
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RE: The urge to cheat...

We don't judge people here. I won't judge you. Just don't want to see you hurt.

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(24 Jul 2017 18:59)Voshigirl Wrote:  We don't judge people here.  I won't judge you.  Just don't want to see you hurt.
Thanks hun. My will power can be quite strong, I've survived 8 years, I'm sure I can survive another lol
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RE: The urge to cheat...

Yes, cheated,
No, she has no idea.
Is it a good idea, no not really, grass is not always greener.
Have I fulfill my desires, yes, some.
would I do it again, almost certainly but only because I have no will power and I am weak.
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I am not weak and am in full control of my desires and destiny.  I have been married for 50 years this year and have not had sex with the wife for 29 years this year.  She is very religious and something I did was not what she expected of me, and she is punishing me.  However, being a man, and having a mans' needs, I started cheating on her about 25 years ago.  I have never regretted it, and I do not feel guilty over it.  I have had some excellent meetings, and some very good experiences with some lovely women. Some married, and some not.
My views differ from some of our members, and my outlook is different, but I have enjoyed my cheating immensely. We are still in a caring, if not a full loving, relationship.  And we expect to die in each others company.

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I think if I had an opportunity for physical cheating I would be very tempted. I'd definitely try to resist though. Luckily I'm not the sort who attracts women easily , so the opportunity hasn't arisen since the home sex life took at downturn..
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(25 Jul 2017 05:24)Blue Wrote:  Yes, cheated,
No, she has no idea.
Is it a good idea, no not really, grass is not always greener.
Have I fulfill my desires, yes, some.
would I do it again, almost certainly but only because I have no will power and I am weak.
Apologies in advance if i'm wrong but, to be honest I don't think it is weakness. It may be a case of you wanting it that bad and you just think fuck it, literally lol. We all have choice to walk away or not do something but the want takes over the need. I have cheated in the past at almost every opportunity (not on my current partner though) because I could and I wanted to and I knew it would happen again, and again, and again. I believe the only reason I haven't cheated on my current partner is because there will be serious consequences. 

(25 Jul 2017 06:07)chidds01234 Wrote:  I am not weak and am in full control of my desires and destiny.  I have been married for 50 years this year and have not had sex with the wife for 29 years this year.  She is very religious and something I did was not what she expected of me, and she is punishing me.  However, being a man, and having a mans' needs, I started cheating on her about 25 years ago.  I have never regretted it, and I do not feel guilty over it.  I have had some excellent meetings, and some very good experiences with some lovely women. Some married, and some not.
My views differ from some of our members, and my outlook is different, but I have enjoyed my cheating immensely. We are still in a caring, if not a full loving, relationship.  And we expect to die in each others com
It's not just men that have needs mate, believe me. Does she know you cheat?

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RE: The urge to cheat...

(25 Jul 2017 13:33)Red_Velvet Wrote:  
(25 Jul 2017 05:24)Blue Wrote:  Yes, cheated,
No, she has no idea.
Is it a good idea, no not really, grass is not always greener.
Have I fulfill my desires, yes, some.
would I do it again, almost certainly but only because I have no will power and I am weak.
Apologies in advance if i'm wrong but, to be honest I don't think it is weakness. It may be a case of you wanting it that bad and you just think fuck it, literally lol. We all have choice to walk away or not do something but the want takes over the need. I have cheated in the past at almost every opportunity (not on my current partner though) because I could and I wanted to and I knew it would happen again, and again, and again. I believe the only reason I haven't cheated on my current partner is because there will be serious consequences. 

(25 Jul 2017 06:07)chidds01234 Wrote:  I am not weak and am in full control of my desires and destiny.  I have been married for 50 years this year and have not had sex with the wife for 29 years this year.  She is very religious and something I did was not what she expected of me, and she is punishing me.  However, being a man, and having a mans' needs, I started cheating on her about 25 years ago.  I have never regretted it, and I do not feel guilty over it.  I have had some excellent meetings, and some very good experiences with some lovely women. Some married, and some not.
My views differ from some of our members, and my outlook is different, but I have enjoyed my cheating immensely. We are still in a caring, if not a full loving, relationship.  And we expect to die in each others com
It's not just men that have needs mate, believe me. Does she know you cheat?
I don't know, but some of her comments suggest she guesses that I am cheating, but she has never reproached me on the subject.  I have often discussed my need with her and she still refuses to have sex with me.  But I am not fazed as I have five women that are happy to have me pay them attention, and they all look after my needs.

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25 Jul 2017 16:41
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